8 Silent Relationship Destroyers

In some cases, a breakup or divorce can blindside you. However, in most cases, there are silent relationship-destroying behaviors at work that slowly destroy the relationship.

In medical terms, a silent killer is a disease or illness lying beneath the surface that slowly kills a person without much notice or symptoms. A silent relationship destroyer is very much like this, except there are signs, but both or one partner chooses to avoid accepting or acknowledging them.

If you’ve ever been in a failed relationship, then it’s likely you know firsthand what a relationship killer is. The sad thing about a relationship-killing behavior or trait is that if it’s acknowledged, in many cases, clear communication can bring the relationship back to life.

Unfortunately, though, the sad fact is that when they aren’t acknowledged, they live up to their name and kill the relationship. Here are eight silent relationship destroyer to watch out for.

1. passive-aggressive behaviors.

In a relationship, no one wants to confront their partner, tell them they are doing something that bothers them, or try to push them to do more when they aren’t doing enough.

In turn, it’s easy to end up becoming passive-aggressive, trying to push the partner to meet your needs. Unfortunately, over time, passive aggression turns into an all-out war, and eventually that war will end, and no one wins this battle.

2. One or both partners bottle up their emotions and then later explode.

Imagine a couple who never discusses their emotions or problems with each other, and instead, when they get mad, they bury it.

They have been burying it for such an extended period of time that the slightest provocation ignites them, and they are suddenly enraged over twenty-five things I despise about you. This happens far too often in relationships, and eventually, it will destroy the connection.

3. A lack of transparency in finances.

When two people come together into a serious relationship, finances become a shared issue. Even if you don’t share accounts, there needs to be at least some form of transparency.

Perhaps one of the leading relationship killers is bad financial communication, or a lack of alignment when it comes to finances. When one or both partners hide or lie about spending, eventually it will take a toll.

4. One partner becomes complacent.

Recently, I read through a Reddit post about relationship regrets, and one of the most common was where the individual regretted not putting in enough effort. After a while, people become accustomed to one another, and because of how comfortable they are, they quit putting forth effort.

Then, all the work is placed on one partner, which ultimately causes the one who is pulling all of the weight to get burned out. Not only that, but this can lead one partner to resent the other. And after burying resentment for so long, it can be impossible to hold it in any longer.

5. A lack of inti-macy.

Let’s face it, inti-macy is important. While it may not be the most important factor in a relationship, people have needs. Without the bond of inti-macy, eventually one or both partners may end up going astray and seeking it elsewhere.

6. You stop spending quality time together as a couple.

Quality time together as a couple is also very important. It allows both partners to build trust and feel like they can openly communicate with each other.

Even if you don’t share everything in common, when you stop doing the little things and stop dating each other, eventually it will kill the relationship.

7. One or both partners ignore the other’s needs.

It’s easy to get caught up in your own identity, needs, and personal life. However, part of being in a couple is tending to each other emotionally and otherwise. When that stops happening and you build a wall around you, it is disastrous for the relationship.

8. The relationship becomes one-sided.

When one partner is always putting in the effort, is the only one pulling their weight, and takes on the full responsibility of keeping the relationship afloat, it can be too much.

At first, it might not be noticeable, but over time, this wears on the partner putting forth all of the efforts. Eventually, either that partner will leave or they will become so frustrated that they, too, become distant and lose motivation to keep pushing.

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