8 Truths About Dating a Married Man

1. You’re not the only one

Common sense suggests that if someone you are dating is willing to violate the sacred marriage vow, he is most likely be two-timing you or having flings or affairs with multiple women without hesitation.

2. You Will Always Be Low Priority

When you date a married man, it means you are sharing him with his wife and likely his children. So be ready that you never going to be number one in his life.

When his time is short, he is always going to choose them. If nothing else, he will need to be highly available to his family to keep your affair a secret. That will always be so – as long as he is married.

Moreover, you should accept that married men must be available on demand. If you want to spend time with your lover, he’ll need you be available at a moment’s notice when he is able to get away. So, while he’ll be there for you rarely, but you shouldn’t make plans whenever he is ready to see you.

3. Your relationship will never feel “right”

Having a relationship with a married man may give you momentary pleasure, but it will lead to complications. After the initial phase, the relationship will constantly be a source of regret or worry for you. Even in the best moments together, you will always be reminded that he is a married man. When he spends time with you, he may ignore calls or lie to his wife that he is attending a meeting or spending time with his friends. In any case, you will always feel like you’re doing something wrong. And in fact, you are doing something wrong.

4. He Is Probably Lying About His Marriage and His Wife

Married men frequently misrepresent their home situation to their affair partners. He may claim that she is cruel, unsupportive, or refuses to have s3x with him. You can bet that this is entirely one-sided.

You will be tempted to believe this narrative. After all, if his wife is a bad person, it’s much easier for you to continue the affair. Instead, try to envision her as a human with feelings who is probably going to be devastated by this. Also, remember that a married man who will denigrate his own wife will also throw you under the bus if your affair comes to light.

5. You’re replaceable, and your relationship is temporary

No matter what promises he makes or what dreams you have about your relationship, it is temporary. You are replaceable. If your affair faces the risk of being exposed, he will be quick to end it. If he finds someone more interesting, he will replace you. If he spends some good time with his wife for a few weeks, he will ignore you and stop talking to you

6. You Are Responsible for the Pain You Cause

Considering an affair with a married man, but you might justify yourself that you aren’t responsible for his marriage. You are not the one who made a vow, and there should be no expectation of loyalty from you. Ultimately, that falls flat.

When you were dating a married man, you took on full responsibility of the choices you made. As long as you continue, you participate in a relationship that involves dishonesty and betrayal. That’s sad but true.

You are making a choice here. You are doing something that stands to impact people beyond yourself. He may be the one deciding to cheat on his wife, but you will also have to accept that you are a home wrecker.

7. He Isn’t Going to Leave His Wife

If you’ve fallen in love with a married man and fantasized about him getting a divorce so you can be together, it’s time for a reality check. The “normal” and meaningful relationship between you is not that easy for him. He has already told you who he is through his actions. It’s highly unlikely that you’ll become the only one.

Be realistic: you are not his top priority now, and he’s not going to uproot his familial relationships for you. Why not? Because you have shown that you will keep him satisfied without the benefits of marriage or even a committed relationship. It’s the basic lack of motivation to work harder.

He is also well aware that getting a divorce is going to be costly. If your relationship can be proven, his wife is likely to make that an issue. So the cost of leaving everything for you is too high for him, whichever promises he gives you now.

8. There will be a lot of waiting

The natural tendency of any courtship is to move forward. If not, it will stagnate and fall apart. Under normal circumstances, you may set specific goals, such as moving in or traveling together or getting to know each other’s family. For obvious reasons, this is not feasible for married men. He will spend time with you according to his availability and not when you want to. You may have to wait a long time for him to devote his time to you. You may even have to wait for him to call or text you because his wife may be around or may get a sense of what’s happening between you two. If you are waiting for his nuptials to break up or waiting for him to leave his wife, you’d better give up now because he is unlikely to do so.

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